JUDGEMENT

Our neighbor, from across the lake, just left; he visits every Tuesday from 9:30 to 1: or so. During the visit today, Jamie and I, snapped beans and put them in canning jars. We packed 21 quartz. We have lots of beans. Jamie has already frozen an equal amount. We have a great crop this year. We have picked two-thirds so far; so we have quite a few more to process. We have enough beans, onions, garlic, broccoli and potatoes to last us well in to next Summer. Then we have fifty chickens that will be ready to butcher in the coming weeks, so we should be eating well.

I have been becoming more and more aware of how we judge each other in subtle ways. When one first commits themselves to give up judgement, you first notice the gross judgements you make in your mind. You can banish such thoughts as you have them. If you haven't dealt with the reason you are making judgements, in the first place, the ego will present the same judgement in a disguised way. You may, innocently [you think], wonder why this person does this or that. The thought just pops into your head, I wonder if she/he will be doing that annoying thing they do.  You don't realize you have been judgmental until the other person reacts to what comes out of your mouth. I hope that doesn't sound too complicated. The idea is that the ego will flood your mind with disguised judgements until you deal with why you want to judge in the first place.

In the duality world, we have been brought up in, we learned to think in terms of higher and lower, almost, exclusively. The idea of seeing another person as completely equal is rare. Even though, we may know we are being crazy, we tend to see people a little bit higher or lower than ourselves. Because of duality this is a built in process; now add in the fear that we might not be lovable. Now, from the your imagined position of being higher or lower, you must develop strategies to keep the person, in the position, you want them. That takes a lot of judgement. If you are a psychologically sophisticated person, it takes a lot of subtle judgement.

Everybody wants to feel loved, almost, nobody feels they deserve it. In order to keep ourselves from feeling, the panic that nobody loves us, we have to do a whole lot of controlling. This can be very subtle control; outside the awareness of both the controller  and the controllee, or it can be blatant. 

In any case, the solution is the same. Learning that you are lovable beyond measure. You are magnificent as you are. You need do nothing to be loved. You were born into this world an absolutely lovable person. Nothing you learned since about yourself is true. You, still, are and are deserving of unconditional love.

In the coming blogs, I am going to talk more about the matrix that locks us into this illusion. What it consist of and how it defines us and curtails our freedom. And, more about the way out.

Love and Peace,  Gregg