RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF

In our search for truth, and our attempts to grow spiritually and psychologically, we often neglect our relationship with self.

It happens easily. We don't want to be selfish [aggrandizing things to self first]; we don't want to be self centered [focusing primarily on self]. We want to be loving, generous and think of ourselves as grown up. In the process, we often forget a key factor, our opinion about ourselves. If asked, we come up with a stock answer, but is the reflexive answer the truth?

In our goal to be mature [Good] people we often neglect ourselves. Let us look at this situation. Like it or not, we see in others the discrepancies, we think we may have in ourselves. We judge others for our own shortcomings. It is especially true with those closest to us. If something rubs us the wrong way, our first perception is to 'see' in the other what, may be, our own, self perceived flaw. We do this at all levels. We project on the world what we are afraid we may be capable of.

Our opinion about ourselves was shaped by our culture, our parents, our family, our friends, our schools and other institutions; everything. In growing up we learn to shed much of the negative learning; but not everything. The problems, in the world, are caused by how we see ourselves. We could not be manipulated if we held ourselves with proper esteem. If we had good esteem for ourselves we would stop looking for experts to tell us what to believe. We would not follow leaders over the cliff of despair, war, depression, poverty etc. We know how to care for ourselves. We know how to feed ourselves. We know how to care for each other. We don't need leaders or experts; we need to listen to ourselves.

But we don't trust ourselves, do we? And that is the problem; our low opinion about ourselves.

We all have different gifts. There is always, something, somebody can do better than another. That is great. We need each other. However, no gift makes one person more deserving than another. We are all equally valuable. We may not be equally wise, but we all have the ability to listen, and determine, if what we are hearing sounds like wisdom.

Our relationship with ourselves is primary. We will never have, a complete relationship with another, if we see ourselves as inadequate or unworthy. It is not selfish to take care of our emotional and psychological needs. It is not self-centered to spend some time being nice to ourselves. Growing up means shedding ourselves of all the programming we inculcated in this crazy world. To say it simply, we cannot fully love others, until we fully love ourselves. Most of us go through the world partially shuttered; we only let a portion of our light shine out. It works. The light of love is very powerful. Any amount helps. We can shine all of our light.

When we give up all the negative programming and truly love ourselves, our light will be almost blinding. We are amazing beings of light. We have been convinced we are low beings, that need to grovel for our wants, when we are greatness itself. We are part of source. We have all the creative potential of source.

We deserve to be happy all the time. We deserve to create anything we want. Deserving is not even a question. The very idea, of questioning our worthiness, was an awful, vicious lie. It needs to be put to rest in all minds.

Let us take an honest look at the relationship we have with ourselves. What is the opinion you have of yourself? Do you know how great you are? Do you know you deserve to be ecstatically happy all the time?

Do you know you are not your body? Our bodies may be in various states of disrepair. We are old. We are young. We are sick. We are well. We are having an experience with bodies. It is part of understanding separateness. We are the great light that animates the body. Regardless of the vehicle we are temporarily traveling in, we are part of the great light of creation. Our worthiness and value to each other is never a question.

Open up the shutters [the illusion of self] let your real self shine through. Brighten up the world. Bless us all.

Happy Friday!

Love and Peace,  Gregg